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Ageing Sucks

Published by Marketing Team April 20th, 2010 in Announcements.

Ageing sucks for some if not all in some way. I say so that we might each find a reason to count ourselves fortunate. I had breakfast with what you might call my surrogate mother. I’ve been close to the family since the 7th grade. I called her last night just to make sure we were still on since I had to cancel last week. Well, she forgot to put me on her calendar but she was open the next day. We agreed to meet at 8 a.m.

At 8 a.m. this morning when I went to pick her up, she was not ready. She was reading the paper and forgot. “Give me ten minutes and I will be right down.” Fast dresser, she surprised me; it did not take long. We had a wonderful chat, reminisced of things past; spoke of things present; of children and grandchildren. It was a grand morning indeed; something I’ve meant to do for years now. We even made a plan to get the whole family together.

I left feeling better of myself; like I had taken time to stop and “smell the roses” for a change. Sweet the smell too. She was spry and fit, getting around good, even refusing my hand to climb into the SUV or as we stepped over a curb. I was impressed with her step. She had a little zip to her. Good sign in people who are getting up there in years.

Around 2:00 p.m. this afternoon I got a call. “Richard, were we suppose to meet today? I have you on my calendar.” In the most gentle voice I could muster I reminder her we already had breakfast. I could tell she was embarrassed as silence feel over the phone… “I’m sorry. I guess I am not thinking so good these days.” I could not help but reply, “That is okay; I’ll do the thinking for us both from here out”. Content with that, she laughed and said that was fine with her as we made parting comments before finally hanging up. I paused in reflection as visions of her “being there” for me waded through my thoughts. I thank God for the love I have given to her in the past because it would have to be enough to last.

I cried…

The moral for me is this…. for some, the past is all we will have to share, but we better do it now. I think it will go well with me if I take a lesson here. She called me because I was on her calendar. I would be remiss if I did not put her on mine. I stopped and did so. Know this, one day it will be only the memories you can hold close, or for some, the memory you left with them. In any case, it comes to mind because that all there is now.We all need to take a lesson in short term memory; …now, put somebody you love on your calendar today. A lesson learned.